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Well, here I am again with a new blog—and this time, it's about something that’s been on my mind for several years. “The Source.”

The source that I’ve observed and come to believe is the root cause behind most emotional distress in our lives.

So hold tight and sit back. Just give me 4 to 5 minutes of your time—it might create a minor shift with a major impact.

What Is the Source of Our Problems?



According to me, expectation is the root of most of our struggles.

Let me explain.

When you think something will go your way and it doesn’t, what really causes the pain? It’s not the event—it’s the expectation tied to it. In the beginning, you’re hopeful. But slowly, hope turns into expectation.

And yes, there’s a big difference between hope and expectation.

  • Hope is balanced—it considers the possibility of both success and failure.

  • Expectation, however, creates a mental correlation between success and happiness. You start believing that only success will bring joy—and when that doesn’t happen, it hits hard.

What Is Expectation, Really?

People often confuse expectation with hope, desire, or ambition. But in reality, expectation is something else entirely.

Expectation is when you begin correlating your karma with someone else’s karma.

For example, if you always do your work properly, you start expecting everyone else to do the same. But that’s not how life works.

Expectation can create emotional and social imbalance because it leads to unwanted attachment to people and outcomes. And as the saying goes:
Attached birds cannot leave the nest.

What to Watch Out For ?



If you’re someone who often falls into the trap of expectation, you may notice:

🔸 Feeling disheartened by failures more than necessary
One of the major side effects of expectation is feeling deeply disappointed—even by small setbacks. Why? Because expectations make you build castles in the clouds. When reality doesn't match the fantasy, the fall hurts more.

🔸 Unwanted arguments in relationships
Expectations can wreak havoc on relationships. When you expect something from your partner and they don't meet it, you feel let down. Meanwhile, your partner may think, "I’m doing all I can—what more do they want?" These tectonic emotional shifts have silently wrecked many relationships.

🔸 Underestimating others—or worse, underestimating yourself
You may begin judging others unfairly when they don’t meet your expectations, or you may start doubting your own worth based on others' behavior.

🔸 Linking success too tightly to happiness
Expectation often binds your happiness to results. You start believing that if you don’t succeed, you can’t be happy. This belief traps you in a cycle of conditional joy.

Enough Jibber-Jabber… Gimme the Solution!

So, how do i break this cycle ?

Ask yourself one simple question: Why is my karma dependent on someone else?

Let me give you the answer too—
Your karma is yours and yours alone.

If you face problems, it’s because of you—not anyone else. If you succeed, the credit is yours. And if someone tries to take that credit, it’s only because they believe they can’t achieve it on their own.

And to be honest, giving up attachment to expectation isn’t easy. It’s a deep-rooted seed buried in the subconscious. But it can be removed—by becoming fully conscious of your thoughts and actions.

To Wrap It Up

I hope I was able to spark a new thought in your mind today.
My aim is simple—to make you aware of feelings and patterns you usually overlook.

And as always, it’s been a pleasure writing for you.
Catch you soon with yet another thought. 💭✨

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